Do you know anyone who has small children and their husbands play golf? You know the one’s whose husbands work hard all week and then feel like it is their right to take a quarter of every weekend for their own time. That sounds reasonable doesn’t it… you work hard, you provide for your family, you spend some time as a family on the weekend and you get to take some time for yourself too… Sure that sounds right… but do you know any woman with small children, who either works or stays home that takes six hours to pursue a hobby or hang out with her friends every single weekend? If you do, let me know because I haven’t met her yet and I would like to be her friend!
It’s hard for me to be too critical because my husband does work from home and cooks all our meals, is great with the kids and does the grocery shopping… but a six hour hobby…every weekend… that requires lots of equipment upgrades and is really expensive… when you get down to it, it’s a little ridiculous.
If you know these men who are obsessed with golf, you know that they can rarely remember their anniversary but they know every club they used on every hole of every round of golf they have ever played! Not only do they remember, but apparently it is a part of the experience to relieve every hole with whoever will listen after each round…
Because I know that the men are not going to stop playing golf, here are 7 tips for every man who plays golf and has small children
1) “It was great! Thanks!”
When you walk in the door after having been gone for six hour and your wife asks how your round was, tell her it was great and thank her profusely for taking the kids while you played. (Even if you had 18 triple bogeys and got hit in the head by an errant shot)
2) “What can I do to help?”
When you get home, don’t relive each shot and club choice for her, instead, scoop up the kids and give her a few minutes (or hours) of peace and quiet.
3) “Look what I got for you!”
If, by the grace of God, you get to play in a three day tournament and are gone for 27 hours… if you do happen to win some money (aka. credit from the golf shop), don’t buy something for yourself. Even if that means she ends up with 37 pairs of argyle socks!
4) “This is for you!”
If you happen to bet your hard earned money on your weekend golf game and lose more than $2, don’t tell me about it… and if you happen to win any money – promptly hand it over when you return home and tell her to go get a coffee while you watch the kids.
5) “What can I do to help" Part II
Whatever you do, don’t come home and tell me that you didn’t even stay for a drink and expect to win any points with me… it took you 15 minutes to get to the club, 45 minutes to warm up, 4 and a half hours to play the round… and 15 minutes to get home… You are a real sweetheart for not choosing to socialize with people you just spent 6 hours with while I was playing cleaning lady, referee, lunch lady, life source, negotiator, circus coordinator etc…
6) “I want to spend time with you guys”
If by chance you don’t play golf one weekend, don’t act like you are getting father of the year because you are spending the whole weekend with the family… instead try saying that you are totally focused on the family this weekend and are there any projects or things you would like to get done (while you recover from your triple bypass because that is the only thing that may keep you off the course for a weekend)!
7) “I know it’s a lot of time and I really appreciate it.”
Whatever you do, don’t get defensive and try to justify your hobby – it is as fruitless as trying to tell me what a good guy your friend Dennis is – you know the one with the gun rack, 6 playboy bunny stickers and confederate flag on his truck... don’t go there.