3 Happies and a Thankful

When Cole and I started dating we were 1,100 miles apart so we ended each day on the phone.  We ended the conversation each night by saying three things that made us happy that day.  When we were ready to get off the phone, we would say, “What are your happies?”  They were simple things like: sleeping in, laughing really hard with a friend, a great sunset, time to work out, talking to you on the phone, etc…

It was the nicest way to end the day, focusing on the good parts of the day and sharing them with each other.  It also allowed me to know what things made Cole happy and what was meaningful to him in our day to day life which, I think, has made me a better wife. 

After we got married, we added in one thankful at the end of our happies.  A thankful was one thing that we were thankful ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON.  Some days it is as simple as, I appreciate you taking out the trash, rubbing my feet when we sat on the couch, calling to check in, switching the laundry, grabbing my hand when we walked down the street etc…  It is the greatest window into the tiny little things that happen every day that the other person values… so that you can do those tiny little things more often… and tiny little things add up!

It takes less than five minutes each day and it has transformed the way we think about the day and most importantly, the way we think about each other.