When you get into a committed relationship, you better know what that other person stands for. And not by what they say. Words are cheap. It is behavior that will show you what the person really believes. Why? Because saying and doing are oceans apart and either you have the courage to actively take a stand or you are just full of hot air (and the balloon of your relationship will leak faster and faster.)
Do you stand for equality in house work? Equal amounts of 'me' time? Decency? Honesty? Providing for your family or spending time with the kids? You've got to make hard choices, the consequences of which you first have to understand and then accept. Then, you've got to make sure that other person in your life can accept them as well and, hopefully, appreciate you all the more.
Then, go out and live those choices. Be real. True to yourself. What you do will tell me what you stand for. And not just right now, when the spotlight is on, but throughout your life. In those quiet alone moments. Around the dinner table. When no one is looking.
In a relationship, it doesn't take long to figure out what the other person really stand for. I hope you can live with it.
Thanks to Seth for bringing this up today.