- Aunt May, Spiderman 3
Ok, yes... Aunt May is a fictional character. This does not diminish the wisdom of the words or message.
I've had this type of discussion with several people, all of whom I count as friends. Most relationships start because of love yet stay together for many other reasons, the most powerful of which is commitment. You are committed to showing the other you care for the other, want them to succeed, and remain committed to the relationship, even when you want to throw the dirty socks at each other.
I wish someone pulled you aside from 9th to 12th grades and taught you what it required to be a good husband, good wife, good parent. This training would stop a lot of problems from rearing their ugly mugs.
Our families (and neighbors) used to provide this training to their children through example. Certainly, there were exceptions. But, on the whole, American family life prior to the 60's was happy and stable.
Traditional (termed 'traditional' because they had proven to work well over a great deal of time and across cultures) family values used to be reinforced not just by the family but by the culture around it. People starting a life together knew what it took to be successful. Love, while important, was just one reason and, perhaps, not the most important.
How did they know? Their parents showed them. Their grandparents told them. And, yes, even TV and the comics reinforced the message.
We've got to get back the ideas of commitment to marriage rather than the popular -isms of the day. Instead of environmentalism, vegetarianism, or science-ism, maybe we should focus on those things that make the most difference in our society.
I'm siding with Aunt May; I'm for strong-marriage-ism. Who's with me?
Hat tip: SmartMarriages.com